The Pandemic, Zoom and Polyvagal Theory

I recently saw a pre-publication version of an editorial by Stephen Porges, “The COVID-19 Pandemic is a Paradoxical Challenge to Our Nervous System: A Polyvagal Perspective.”1

In it he says, “The pandemic impacts on our biological imperative to connect.”

Polyvagal theory says that as mammals we need to connect to co-regulate. In fact, we use the minimal cues that come from the face and the tone of voice of each other to co-regulate our nervous systems. These cues let us know we are safe. 

The problem is that during the pandemic, we are being given the imperative that we need to stay away from each other in order to be safe. Dr. Porges says, “Thus, our nervous system is simultaneously being challenged by incompatible demands demanding both avoidance of contact with the SARSCov2 virus and the fulfillment of our biological imperative of connecting with others to feel calm and safe.”

Dr. Porges goes on to talk about the use of video conferencing to help mitigate this paradox.  He says, “To reduce the burden on our nervous system and on [others’] nervous systems, we need to retrain ourselves in the use of the portals for social communication that we have available. This will mean that we are more present and less distractible, while providing cues of safety and connectedness through spontaneous reciprocal co-regulatory facial expressions and vocal intonations.”

So that got me thinking. How can we maximize the use of teleconferencing technology to provide the cues for safety toward each other to increase co-regulation?

Here are a few ideas that can be useful in different contexts. Feel free to comment with your own ideas. It might also be important to recognize that having the intent to do this may be as helpful as the technique itself.     

  1. Make sure that you smile and you have a pleasing, good tone of voice.
  2. Bring your face closer to the camera and with a calm voice, friendly face, and friendly eyes say positive and supportive things that are relevant for the context.
  3. Sing together or do “om”s together while you teleconference.
  4. Breathe together while looking into the camera.
  5. Laugh together (even fake it first – that will eventually trigger real laughter)
  6. Do a brief energy healing exercises together (See http://r4r.support)

I look forward to seeing your ideas.

Author

Robert Schwarz, PsyD, DCEP has been a licensed psychologist for 30 years. Bob has trained therapists internationally on trauma treatment, panic and anxiety, energy psychology. For the last 12 years Bob has served as executive director for the Association for Comprehensive Energy Psychology. He has organized over 25 conferences on energy psychology trauma treatment, Ericksonian hypnosis, brief therapy, that trained over 18,000 therapists. Bob also designed ACEP’s online program The Science of Energy Healing. He has authored 3 books: Tools for Transforming TraumaPTSD: A Clinician’s Guide and We’re No fun Anymore as well as numerous articles and papers.

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1Porges, S. W. (2020) The COVID-19 Pandemic is a Paradoxical Challenge to Our Nervous System: A Polyvagal Perspective.  Clinical Neuropsychiatry (in press)

Photo by Ekaterina Bolovtsova

Comments

  1. Martin Jelfs says:

    Thaks for this; really good advice on teleconferencing.

  2. martinjelfs says:

    Thanks for this Bob. The bit on teleconferencing is particularly useful.

  3. When we don’t have the ability to connect with others, connecting with the earth can calm down the nervous system and bring peace. I find it fulfills the need our systems have for deep connection because Earth connection is just as vital as people connection.

  4. Michele says:

    Makes perfect sense to me. Goes back to the “failure to thrive” with babies that were not given touch stimulation.

  5. Yes, Moira. And I would add that if you have an animal – a dog, cat, bird, any being – you co-regulate your nervous system together with them. In photographs of doctors, nurses, and other health care and essential workers, you often see a dog next to them, a cat on their lap. It is a beautiful connection.

  6. Lambros says:

    Yes I am suffering from anxiety with deep breathing however the more I see others I feel better more alive when I am isolated I feel more worried

  7. Very nice commentary! I was not aware of Polyvagal Perspective, but it makes perfect sense.

    On the contrarian side, I have a different perspective — the biggest social need for Homo Sapiens is to ‘gossip’ and ‘tell stories’ (Ref. Yual Harrari). It was useful for us to organize when we left the Africa and were hammered by bigger/stronger species.

    When you apply to the concept of work, this social need is a distraction — as it drives group think, politics, intimidation as well as discriminations. When people are removed from physical contacts, they get to focus on issues, clear thinking and open communication.

    The idea to co-regulate may still be required in many industries, but it is old school concept of work for many modern work.

    Take my case — I am a software consultant and my wife is a banker. We both earn our bread and butter by advising our clients. We work on computer (Desktop, Laptop, Phones), and deliver our work product mostly with well crafted words or pictures. This work concept is new — not more than 20-30 years old. However, the culture is still old school. We work by driving 10-20 miles each day, waste time in traffic, sit in an ‘office’ for at least 8 hours. We call all of this ‘work’.

    This culture of work was derived from Industrial Age. We needs better concept — the one that focused on quality results, better satisfaction and sustainable living style. I think, we will survive without being in-touch with each other, but we will definitely not survive without changing the way we worked, lived and thought before.

    I thank Coronavirus for expediting the future!

  8. I wrote about this from a different perspective but the key point is equipment (sound and image) makes a huge difference. https://coachmacao.com/2020/04/05/covid-vs-the-magic-formula-for-online-collaboration/

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